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Category: Invitations and Programs
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March 23, 2004
Dear Mimi, |
| We are on a very small budget for our wedding, and hoping for a very intimate affair, with probably only about 30 people. Both for budget reasons, and for the intimate atmosphere we are trying to create, we don't want a lot of people we don't know there. Many of the people we are inviting, however, are single people. I know traditionally the invitation would be to "John Doe & Guest", but that's just it--we don't want the guest. Is there any tactful way of saying "just you" are invited?
Thanks, Justin |
| Dear Justin, |
| How do you handle this? Person by person. Lets say one of those single folks is your uncle Bob. He’s a good friend of the family, will know plenty of people there and will be comfortable being on his own. Send out the invitation to “Uncle Bob”, leave the “and guest” part off. Then give Uncle Bob a call on the side and explain the situation. Tell him how much you are looking forward to seeing him, how important he is for the wedding, but how you just don’t have the resources to have him bring a guest. Avoid ambiguity at all cost. Lets say another one of those single folks is your best friend Kim. Kim is a rather nervous twenty five year old single woman with a bad complexion. She will know no one at the wedding and will be petrified to come alone. Under no circumstances should you ask Kim to come without a guest. Kim needs a guest to keep it together until the bride tosses her the bouquet! In other words, some of your guests you should be able to tell, on the side, that they cannot bring a guest. Others should either not be invited or should be allowed to bring a guest regardless. You may have to lower your total number to accommodate folks like Kim…but who would want their best friend to miss their wedding!
Best of Luck, |
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